We've become a forum of library ushers, and little else.

[Marquis]

You tell me.

i'm not in the revenge business.

I was referring to the cockblocking. Does the name Never ring a bell?

 

[dolf]

"Their" sweetie.

if i'd put "there" in italics you would have seen the joke

 

[Xploremyworld]

Newbie

Interesting thread...

I think Malca MS proposes the right balance: I think why not a balance of "library" and new opinions...Does it have to be one or the other? I mean there are some topics that are just groaners for some of us here, but like everything else, there are always new folks coming and rather than shoot them off, we could answer and say hey, here is what we think and oh, by the way, we have more info here too.

I'd guess I'm considered a 'newbie' here (since I only joined Literotica in December 2004), but I'm not a newbie to life. I certainly don't want to feel constrained to a 'library' to see 'dated' responses to my questions of today. After awhile it's almost a certainty that most questions/issues have been raised, but if the forum wants to continue to attract (and keep) new readers, it simply makes common sense to ACCOMMODATE our queries by allowing them to be posted, read, and commented on by those who wish to do so.
If a long-time reader/poster doesn't want to read what they consider 'been there, done that' material, then of course they have the right to not read it.
My experience here to date indicates that there aren't so many who post that the Discussion Board(?) needs to restrict questions, anyhow. In fairness, I have initiated several threads, and wasn't aware of this as an issue, since I've never been told to 'check the library.' My final thought: I assumed this to be a 'forum,' not a library. Am I wrong?

 

[Marquis]

if i'd put "there" in italics you would have seen the joke

Don't try to cover for it now!

Take it off!!!

WOOOOOOO

 

[dolf]

Don't try to cover for it now!

Take it off!!!

WOOOOOOO

lol, since when did i ever try to cover for my stupidity...it'd be a full time job

but at least allow me pride in my clever irony...ya big meany

 

[catalina_francisco]

Damn it, since schmerzgarten has this cool thread I haven't been able to stop thinking if we are all destinedto be ushers to anywhere at all, what are our uniforms going to be like? Some of the images in my mind are just wicked.

Catalina

 

[Marquis]

lol, since when did i ever try to cover for my stupidity...it'd be a full time job

but at least allow me pride in my clever irony...ya big meany

Pride is a sub's greatest enemy, just trying to help Dolfie baby.

 

[dolf]

Pride is a sub's greatest enemy, just trying to help Dolfie baby.

you're all heart...and cock.

compassionate and cocky sums you up

 

[Miss Diva]

To a large degree, I have to agree with WD. I have recently noted an increasing number of "newbie" threads die early deaths because of posts that refer them to the library before anyone has a chance to respond directly to the question(s) posed. Had that happened to me when I first came here, I probably would have abandoned this forum before I ever got out of "Virgin" status. (And some of you may well wish it had happened to me! )

Don't get me wrong: I see nothing wrong with a referral to a library thread after a direct response to the poster's query - especially if it's someone new to the forum. I know that sometimes the older (longer habitués) of the forum may get tired of seeing a "new" question that they've seen two, or three, or umpteen times before... but even as a semi-veteran of the forum, a member for all of nine months (!), I've recently noted that some newbies' threads that I would have liked to see discussed (because I hadn't previously seen a discussion of that point) get killed off by the sequence of Post 1: Newbie question, Post 2: Bald referral to a library thread, End of thread.

What would it hurt to let a few responses that directly address the query get in, and then post a response that does address the query, with a note that, "By the way, you might find some additional guidance/thoughts on this subject in thread X239178," which would lead them to previous threads on (or near) the topic? It would seem to me that would be more encouraging to the new forum poster than the sequence noted in the previous paragraph, and might even provide an opportunity to get some new thoughts in here.

I've almost quit posting to this side of the forum, partly because of this (probably inadvertent) stifling of newbies' questions. The vast majority of my last hundred or so posts have been to the Café side - a complete turnaround from the first few months I was here - and I attribute a large part of that to the fact that these referrals to library threads kill off the new folks' questions so quickly. Even if I've seen the topic before, I do enjoy sharing what knowledge/experience I have with others - but don't feel that it's worth the time to consider their question, frame a response, type and post it when "it's all been discussed before - go read it" pops up as the first or second response to the question.

I agree. It is sort of like school (ok but more fun). But I am now afraid to put up my hand just in the the teacher dismisses my question...

What I am tired of is titles that read: Newbie or Curious. Perhaps the titles should be more relevant to the topic being discussed? Any thoughts? Anyone? Please?

 

[WriterDom]

Damn it, since schmerzgarten has this cool thread I haven't been able to stop thinking if we are all destinedto be ushers to anywhere at all, what are our uniforms going to be like? Some of the images in my mind are just wicked.

Catalina

There are scary unspeakable things in the bowels of the library. I sent someone new there and they never returned.

 

[catalina_francisco]

There are scary unspeakable things in the bowels of the library. I sent someone new there and they never returned.

Damn, send an SOS and let our librarian know we are on our way wth rescue teams and party animals......break out the corsets, stilettos, and video camera's!!

Catalina

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I was referring to the cockblocking. Does the name Never ring a bell?

i understood the first time. Your point?

 

[Dstorage]

To direct someone to a past thread also assumes that there is nothing more to learn about that subject. One benefit of answering questions is sometimes you get asked stuff that you haven't thought about before, and to just refer someone away implies that you aren't interested in perhaps finding something out that is a new viewpoint for you as well.

Views I had on certain subjects or life in general a couple years ago aren't necessarily ones that I subscribe to today.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

To direct someone to a past thread also assumes that there is nothing more to learn about that subject. One benefit of answering questions is sometimes you get asked stuff that you haven't thought about before, and to just refer someone away implies that you aren't interested in perhaps finding something out that is a new viewpoint for you as well.

In your view, perhaps a link does represent the end of the line. i view it as a starting place that also gives the originator points of reference to posters both past and present. Those still present occasionally update their thoughts in a thread i've linked, or bumped. i know Shadowsdream did a couple of days ago. Last, you just might give a new poster someone they might PM for further information.

Granted, i'm speaking from personal experience based on things i've written in public view. Just to be PC, my apologies to any of you veterans that received them from my actions. For those of you that have, or haven't, don't worry. i won't be doing it in the future.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Views I had on certain subjects or life in general a couple years ago aren't necessarily ones that I subscribe to today.

LOL, so I've noticed....can I help with any of them? And yes, there is always something else to discover, even if only rediscovered through new eyes.

Catalina

 

[sunfox]

I can't believe this shit is still being stirred.

That said, I disagree that this board is unwelcoming. Cliquish, yes, to a degree, though nowhere near the way that the GB is. (So I'm with you, WriterDom, in being deeply amused at a poll on the GB regarding the cliquish nature of the BDSM board. Pot? Meet kettle, eh?)

I never felt unwelcome when I first came here, and I could honestly care less if my posts are responded to. I don't need strangers to validate my point of view, and if I comment on something, it's because I had something to say, not because I'm looking for people to pat me on the back for being such a bright girl.

I am also not inclined to post to threads, newbie or not, that address subjects that I am not interested in or in which I would have nothing useful to add to the discussion. So if I don't respond to a thread, it's not because I'm being cliquish or ignoring you.. it's because I have nothing to say.

Honestly, a lot of the bitching seems to be 'look at me! Listen to me! Love me!' kind of crap, which ain't my job. I don't ignore certain people's posts.. I just don't respond to posts when there is nothing I wish to say to it.

So anyways, people.. get thicker skins.. don't feel that people are ignoring you if they're not directly answering you... and as was previously mentioned, lay off the immediate 'omgwtfbbq why didn't you check the library you moron' crap for a while. Posting library links is fine, but if you're going to bother posting, it probably won't strain you too much to actually address the thread yourself.

And newbies who post threads asking questions.. if you want to be taken seriously, try coming back to the thread and responding instead of posting once and never being seen again. It makes the rest of us disinclined to bother typing all that incredible wisdom out.

That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.

 

[WriterDom]

I can't believe this shit is still being stirred.
.

It will soon. Old threads should be allowed to die without a feeding tube.

What I can't believe is that I have really appreciated your av until now.

 

[rosco rathbone]

What I can't believe is that I have really appreciated your av until now.

I think she has my favorite av of anyone here. Makes you reconsider the corset.

 

[Marquis]

i understood the first time. Your point?

Does humor count as a point or do I need a more utilitarian goal to escape your scorn?

 

[sunfox]

It will soon. Old threads should be allowed to die without a feeding tube.

What I can't believe is that I have really appreciated your av until now.

Aww.. you're going to make me blush. I don't remember where I found this, but I am rather fond of it. I like fishnets.

 

[Marquis]

Aww.. you're going to make me blush. I don't remember where I found this, but I am rather fond of it. I like fishnets.

That's not you?!

 

[sunfox]

I think she has my favorite av of anyone here. Makes you reconsider the corset.

Anything that makes my stalking of you easier is worthwhile keeping. Glad you like it.

 

[sunfox]

That's not you?!

I'm not that white , having a touch of the brush, as they say... but C tells me that it is a pretty good representation of my ass.

 

[Marquis]

I'm not that white , having a touch of the brush, as they say... but C tells me that it is a pretty good representation of my ass.

So when are we going to get to see the real thing?

 

[sunfox]

So when are we going to get to see the real thing?

Oh, you'll have to do a far better job of schmoozing me than this to get the real thing.