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[MischiefMakerAlways]

I want to talk about something that people might find controversial on this site, and that is...
Fifty Shades of Grey

Why Chloe? Where are you going with this? Don't you know it's not a healthy representation of the D/s community? Don't you know some of us are going to skip this or potentially future posts now?

Stick with me folks. I bring this up because it's come up in a few conversations since my time on Lit, and I have feelings that I've kept from fully expressing... until now.

(Head's up, there will be minor spoilers if that means anything to anyone who hasn't read/seen these.)

I'm not here to debate the inaccuracies of a D/s dynamic, or the fact that there were unhealthy aspects to the relationship. So, why do I like the Fifty Shades books and choose to defend them to a certain degree?

I didn't really know there were these types of dynamics or relationships until I read that first book. I didn't know sex was more than just sex. I didn't get why people crave it. I didn't get orgasms. I simply thought something was wrong with me. Then I read that first book. I wasn't a 22 year old virgin like Anastasia, but I felt like one at times.

There were aspects of what a sexual relationship could be within a romantic or non-romantic one. This book opened my eyes to world I didn't really realize existed.

I began to tentatively do research, to see if people really did this. I found online chat rooms and forums, similar to Lit, that helped me learn a little more. I devoured the other two books when they were published. I cried when Christian fell to his knees in submission to Anastasia, realizing what that truly meant for him. I cringed when Jack assaulted Anastasia in his office, claiming he could be more of man for her than Christian could be. It broke my heart when Christian believed Ana was only with him for the money when she needed to quickly withdraw a large amount.

Why? Why did those things affect me so? The writing isn't perfect. No. It's because as I read and as I researched and realized my own journey into this world, I began to empathize.

There were so many mistakes made along the way in their relationship. Possessiveness, poor communication, refusal to acknowledge past pain points, misusing the red room... the list goes on. But, there was also growth. And that's being human.

I can go back and look at shitty relationships I was in, and I can point the finger at the other person. I know, though, there are a lot of ways I'm (thankfully) not the same person I was during those relationships. This includes when I started entering relationships that had a D/s dynamic. I learned the importance of safewords, the importance of limits, and the importance of having those conversations fairly early in the relationship.

So, for all of its faults, for everything it's lacking or got wrong, what did Fifty Shades do right? It shone a light on section of sexual relationships that have made it possible for girls like me to realize how to find what was missing in their lives. It also paved the way for a lot of popular romantasy novels to take the steps they want in their writings while still being known works.

I could go on about a lot of things, but the importance of what I wanted to share I've said. I'm grateful that this piece of fanfiction became the popular craze that it was because, without it, I might not even be on Lit. I might not have ever found that piece of me that was missing. And my sex life might be boring as fuck.

read the books, they are way way better and super easy fast reads...i read all 3 books in 5 days...the first book is A LOT of sex, haha

I'll start off by saying, I have never thought of this story series like this, and it's definitely an interesting and quite valid perspective. Thank you for sharing! I was lucky in that I found Lit, or was introduced to it ( I can't remember now) right after it went live, so my proverbial eyes were opened here. But I can see how this mainstream story could be your conduit.

I read the books, and I hated them. Not because of the story, or all of the issues with their relationship, but because they were so poorly written. I wanted to know what all the hype was, soni read them while deployed. I still haven't seen the movies; maybe one day.

I never got to the point of like Christian. Not that I'm perfect, but he really grated on me.

And to Rafe's point, they are INCREDIBLY fast reads - Tolkien didn't write these, that's for sure. They can be knocked out quickly if anyone hasn't read them or hasn't seen the movies.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I'll start off by saying, I have never thought of this story series like this, and it's definitely an interesting and quite valid perspective. Thank you for sharing! I was lucky in that I found Lit, or was introduced to it ( I can't remember now) right after it went live, so my proverbial eyes were opened here. But I can see how this mainstream story could be your conduit.

That's why I shared it. I'm sure there are other forms of mainstream media that came before Fifty Shades that would have opened other people's eyes to the world.

I read the books, and I hated them. Not because of the story, or all of the issues with their relationship, but because they were so poorly written. I wanted to know what all the hype was, soni read them while deployed. I still haven't seen the movies; maybe one day.

They weren't the most well-written books. They were fan-fiction. They weren't meant to be the hit they were, but people wanted the accessibility to this BDSM world that the books offered.

I never got to the point of like Christian. Not that I'm perfect, but he really grated on me.

And to Rafe's point, they are INCREDIBLY fast reads - Tolkien didn't write these, that's for sure. They can be knocked out quickly if anyone hasn't read them or hasn't seen the movies.

Yes. Easy fast reads. And the books are very much better than the movies.

 

[base10]

I never got to the point of like Christian. Not that I'm perfect, but he really grated on me.

I thought the point was that he is a billionaire, so therefore anything he wants to do is sexy

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I thought the point was that he is a billionaire, so therefore anything he wants to do is sexy

No. Not the point at all. In fact, it's when he tries to throw money for the sake of the throwing money at things that Ana is least impressed by him.

 

[base10]

No. Not the point at all. In fact, it's when he tries to throw money for the sake of the throwing money at things that Ana is least impressed by him.

That's fair. It also seems to me a lot of his behavior would be abuse if he wasn't loaded.

And I am not someone who sees BDSM as abuse at all, I'm a big fan of it.

Thanks for your view on it

 

[Broken_paladin]

I like my BDSM smut fantasies a little darker than the 50 shades fairytale...
It began with "Tarnsman of Gor"
Probably not for everyone but it lends a sci-fi element I kinda dig.
(Clearly me reading it at a young age hasnt had any effect on my pervert ass )

 

[Chloe_Harper]

The Day That I Want...


Let me greet you with the eagerness of a pet waiting for their human, showing each other the adoration we have for one another after whatever time it was that was apart.

Pick me up and push me against the wall as you greet me with all the fervor of two souls that have been parted for eternity, even if it's only been a few hours. Grab me with a grip so firm, I'll feel it even when your hands explore elsewhere.

Toss me over your shoulder, smacking my backside playfully on the way to the bedroom. Set me back down over your lap, giving me the proper spankings to color my skin and raise my arousal. Strip me down, slowly. Placing me back on the floor, pushing me down to my knees.

Let me show you how much you mean to me from my favorite place of worship. And then, when you lose all patience, pull me up by my hair and bend me over the bed. Sheathe yourself inside me, and don't be gentle. Lose yourself in me, and make my mind lost to yours.

Then, just hold me. Let us catch our breaths in tender touches and caring embraces. Make sure I know that I am safe in your arms, just as you are safe in mine.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

The Day That I Want...


Let me greet you with the eagerness of a pet waiting for their human, showing each other the adoration we have for one another after whatever time it was that was apart.

Pick me up and push me against the wall as you greet me with all the fervor of two souls that have been parted for eternity, even if it's only been a few hours. Grab me with a grip so firm, I'll feel it even when your hands explore elsewhere.

Toss me over your shoulder, smacking my backside playfully on the way to the bedroom. Set me back down over your lap, giving me the proper spankings to color my skin and raise my arousal. Strip me down, slowly. Placing me back on the floor, pushing me down to my knees.

Let me show you how much you mean to me from my favorite place of worship. And then, when you lose all patience, pull me up by my hair and bend me over the bed. Sheathe yourself inside me, and don't be gentle. Lose yourself in me, and make my mind lost to yours.

Then, just hold me. Let us catch our breaths in tender touches and caring embraces. Make sure I know that I am safe in your arms, just as you are safe in mine.

That first gif looks familiar!

But this description is how I see many days going in the not so distant future!

 

[Chloe_Harper]

That first gif looks familiar!

But this description is how I see many days going in the not so distant future!

I love the running into arms gifs! The eagerness was perfect! When I went searching and I found the one @Sammysub07 used earlier, I was like, yea, that's the one I want right now.

And, I hope that future really isn't too distant for you!

 

[TXRafe]

The Day That I Want...


Let me greet you with the eagerness of a pet waiting for their human, showing each other the adoration we have for one another after whatever time it was that was apart.

Pick me up and push me against the wall as you greet me with all the fervor of two souls that have been parted for eternity, even if it's only been a few hours. Grab me with a grip so firm, I'll feel it even when your hands explore elsewhere.

Toss me over your shoulder, smacking my backside playfully on the way to the bedroom. Set me back down over your lap, giving me the proper spankings to color my skin and raise my arousal. Strip me down, slowly. Placing me back on the floor, pushing me down to my knees.

Let me show you how much you mean to me from my favorite place of worship. And then, when you lose all patience, pull me up by my hair and bend me over the bed. Sheathe yourself inside me, and don't be gentle. Lose yourself in me, and make my mind lost to yours.

Then, just hold me. Let us catch our breaths in tender touches and caring embraces. Make sure I know that I am safe in your arms, just as you are safe in mine.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Oh, so accommodating

 

[morelikeasong]

So, for all of its faults, for everything it's lacking or got wrong, what did Fifty Shades do right? It shone a light on section of sexual relationships that have made it possible for girls like me to realize how to find what was missing in their lives. It also paved the way for a lot of popular romantasy novels to take the steps they want in their writings while still being known works.

I relate to this post for sure! My experience wasn’t the same as yours but if I recall, it did make me curious about some things. And I was able to more openly talk about it with my partner because of the book as a cultural reference point even though he didn’t read it.
Sure it wasn’t anything literary genius and it has problematic elements but soooo many books out there wouldn’t hold up to this type of scrutiny that comes with mass popularity.

I enjoyed the books for what they were and I love that they created that moment of exploration for so many women.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I relate to this post for sure! My experience wasn’t the same as yours but if I recall, it did make me curious about some things. And I was able to more openly talk about it with my partner because of the book as a cultural reference point even though he didn’t read it.
Sure it wasn’t anything literary genius and it has problematic elements but soooo many books out there wouldn’t hold up to this type of scrutiny that comes with mass popularity.

I enjoyed the books for what they were and I love that they created that moment of exploration for so many women.

I love this! I love that it opened up that avenue of conversation for you and your partner. A cultural reference point is such the perfect way of putting it.

And yes! It was something that I found myself defending to people like my family because they would say it was just romanticizing abuse in relationships because they didn't understand a world of BDSM.

Books don't need to be literary works of art for them to make a difference in society. I think that's why they meant so much to me.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Spankings

Someone (*cough* @UnquietDreams *cough*) has put spankings on my mind today. So, I thought, instead of doing a full post myself about them (for now...) I would ask, a question about spankings.

What is everyone's favorite tool used for spankings? And, I'm going to ask that hands be taken out of your answer for now, as we all know those are the best anyway

 

[TXRafe]

Spankings

Someone (*cough* @UnquietDreams *cough*) has put spankings on my mind today. So, I thought, instead of doing a full post myself about them (for now...) I would ask, a question about spankings.

What is everyone's favorite tool used for spankings? And, I'm going to ask that hands be taken out of your answer for now, as we all know those are the best anyway

 

[_BassAckwards_]

Spankings

Someone (*cough* @UnquietDreams *cough*) has put spankings on my mind today. So, I thought, instead of doing a full post myself about them (for now...) I would ask, a question about spankings.

What is everyone's favorite tool used for spankings? And, I'm going to ask that hands be taken out of your answer for now, as we all know those are the best anyway

 

[UnquietDreams]

Spankings

Someone (*cough* @UnquietDreams *cough*) has put spankings on my mind today. So, I thought, instead of doing a full post myself about them (for now...) I would ask, a question about spankings.

What is everyone's favorite tool used for spankings? And, I'm going to ask that hands be taken out of your answer for now, as we all know those are the best anyway

As I said in the post that may have started this, I am not a spanker by nature. My Dom side manifests in a different way. But I have also found that, with the right person, because of their enjoyment, I can truly enjoy things that would normally be out of my wheelhouse. So I was able to spank one of my partners raw because her joy became my joy. I wasn't just putting up with it, I was actively enjoying it. (I also once let the most submissive woman I have ever been with tie me up and rail my ass with a strap-on, which I would never have imagined, but that is another story...)

I am going to violate your rule though. My bare hand has been the only thing I have ever used. It was so much more personal....

 

[base10]

Spankings

Someone (*cough* @UnquietDreams *cough*) has put spankings on my mind today. So, I thought, instead of doing a full post myself about them (for now...) I would ask, a question about spankings.

What is everyone's favorite tool used for spankings? And, I'm going to ask that hands be taken out of your answer for now, as we all know those are the best anyway

I have used a wooden spatula with a lot of success

 

[Chloe_Harper]

As I said in the post that may have started this, I am not a spanker by nature. My Dom side manifests in a different way. But I have also found that, with the right person, because of their enjoyment, I can truly enjoy things that would normally be out of my wheelhouse. So I was able to spank one of my partners raw because her joy became my joy. I wasn't just putting up with it, I was actively enjoying it. (I also once let the most submissive woman I have ever been with tie me up and rail my ass with a strap-on, which I would never have imagined, but that is another story...)

I am going to violate your rule though. My bare hand has been the only thing I have ever used. It was so much more personal....

Thank you for sharing this it's always interesting to see what we will try with the right partner. I've definitely enjoyed things with certain partners that I've never really sought otherwise.

However... a rule violation? Really? Come on. I would never come into your thread and violate your rules

 

[morelikeasong]

Spankings

Someone (*cough* @UnquietDreams *cough*) has put spankings on my mind today. So, I thought, instead of doing a full post myself about them (for now...) I would ask, a question about spankings.

What is everyone's favorite tool used for spankings? And, I'm going to ask that hands be taken out of your answer for now, as we all know those are the best anyway

Hmmm, I don’t have much experience with other implements, nor am I really drawn to the idea personally.
I don’t think a cat o nine tails counts as spanking, right? If it does,
I like a light use of that on a special occasion. I’m not super into pain, but I am a little… it’s a delicate balance, and I need to be properly turned on.
I got this metal one out of curiosity… I used it a little on myself for a photoshoot. It definitely has a sting. I think I more like the feeling just of it being dragged along the skin. Feels like chain mail!

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Hmmm, I don’t have much experience with other implements, nor am I really drawn to the idea personally.
I don’t think a cat o nine tails counts as spanking, right? If it does,
I like a light use of that on a special occasion. I’m not super into pain, but I am a little… it’s a delicate balance, and I need to be properly turned on.
I got this metal one out of curiosity… I used it a little on myself for a photoshoot. It definitely has a sting. I think I more like the feeling just of it being dragged along the skin. Feels like chain mail!

I've only ever been spanked by a hand, to be fair. But, there are implements that have my curiosity button pressed a few times. A cat o nine tails? Idk the official ruling on whether it counts as a spank or not, but it sounds like it could be quite fun under the right circumstances

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Spankings

Someone (*cough* @UnquietDreams *cough*) has put spankings on my mind today. So, I thought, instead of doing a full post myself about them (for now...) I would ask, a question about spankings.

What is everyone's favorite tool used for spankings? And, I'm going to ask that hands be taken out of your answer for now, as we all know those are the best anyway

Well, there is something about the hand that usually wins this contest. But sometimes my nerves fail me and I can't get my hands to cooperate, so I have a few options. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to me.

I love the sound and stripes a leather belt produces.
I like a riding crop a lot - it gives the ability to be more precise with location, reddens the skin nicely, and makes a lovely snapping sound.
My favorite though, is a wooden paddle, especially with holes in it. The proper placement can make a lovely sound, the holes make an aesthetically pleasing visual result, and it allows me to transfer more force over a wider area.

 

[UnquietDreams]

Thank you for sharing this it's always interesting to see what we will try with the right partner. I've definitely enjoyed things with certain partners that I've never really sought otherwise.

However... a rule violation? Really? Come on. I would never come into your thread and violate your rules

I only have the One Rule: Don't post pictures of the rapist James Deen.

 

[TXRafe]

Well, there is something about the hand that usually wins this contest. But sometimes my nerves fail me and I can't get my hands to cooperate, so I have a few options. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to me.

I love the sound and stripes a leather belt produces.
I like a riding crop a lot - it gives the ability to be more precise with location, reddens the skin nicely, and makes a lovely snapping sound.
My favorite though, is a wooden paddle, especially with holes in it. The proper placement can make a lovely sound, the holes make an aesthetically pleasing visual result, and it allows me to transfer more force over a wider area.

i find this answer interesting, and i dont mean to call you out or accuse you of anything with this reply. your answer comments on your pleasure and the things you enjoy as the giver. i am the exact opposite and focus almost solely on my partners experience. of course i get pleasure out of the act, but the majority for me is out of my partners pleasure and ability to slide into subspace. i just found this distinction interesting.

 

[BrendaBear]

I only have the One Rule: Don't post pictures of the rapist James Deen.

No idea... and ... I'm good with that.