Wash / Oregon Roll Call

[freakygirl]

Welcome to the thread, freakygurl..............They are in for a treat getting to know you................

dwf/ Seattle/ 50:

Thank you Jacqline..

and don't go around ruining my reputation by telling everyone they are in for a treat getting to know me..

 

[Jacqline]

Thank you Jacqline..

and don't go around ruining my reputation by telling everyone they are in for a treat getting to know me..

Ok then......they will laugh a lot and never be able to predict what you will say..........is that better?

 

[freakygirl]

Ok then......they will laugh a lot and never be able to predict what you will say..........is that better?

that's perfect..

my personality changes like my panties.. daily


I'm off to bed..

night all

 

[Jacqline]

I'm soon for bed myself..............goodnight, freakygurl.....

 

[sourdoughken]

Welcome Freakygurl. Yes there is much more here, Hope you have fun getting to know us...I know I have.

 

[armyjim_2000]

just a quick late-night bump

Let's see...what shall I add?

Jacqline....Hope you heal up fast, from the divorce and the broken bones!

Sweetbee- same here girl...hang in there!

Freaky- sounds like you got a housefull! Hope you find a little peace here on the boards...LOL

All else....hope you had a Good V-day, even if the finding of someone to shower affection had it's ups and downs...

and last but not least....Ken...you must be from Arkansas or something... there's somethings a LONGHORN won't do either...LMAO!

"HOOK 'EM HORNS!"

 

[Jacqline]

Re: just a quick late-night bump

Let's see...what shall I add?

Jacqline....Hope you heal up fast, from the divorce and the broken bones!

Thanks for your good wishes, armyjim...........thank goodness it isn't a divorce (can hurt just as much) and I, thankfully, have no broken bones (just very, very, sore and bruised). It will take a bit of time, but I will get past this as I have everything else, so I can embrace the good things in my future.......

Sorry you are going through a divorce......my positive thoughts go with you...........

 

[Timeus]

Question for the ladies...married 16 years, 3 kids, loving 44 y.o. wife but no sex (of any kind) for two years...have made great progress in relationship with help of a >fantastic< counselor in Portland...no hormonal imbalance...she just doesn't see it as an issue. Any ideas how to restart things?

PS:
Armyjim, at they used to say when I was at UT, not only Hook 'em Horns but Lock 'em Loins! Actually just got back from a trip to Austin. Some fine restaurants, music. A place with a great attitude.

 

[Jacqline]

Question for the ladies...married 16 years, 3 kids, loving 44 y.o. wife but no sex (of any kind) for two years...have made great progress in relationship with help of a >fantastic< counselor in Portland...no hormonal imbalance...she just doesn't see it as an issue. Any ideas how to restart things?

PS:
Armyjim, at they used to say when I was at UT, not only Hook 'em Horns but Lock 'em Loins! Actually just got back from a trip to Austin. Some fine restaurants, music. A place with a great attitude.

Timeus,

There is more to this story than you are knowing or telling.......For myself (and other women my age,) the sexual desire heightened, not lessened or went away after reaching 40.

In my experience, a woman is less likely to want sex if her s/o is not meeting her emotional needs. She needs to feel desired for the person she is, romanced (without apparent expectations), etc. It is my suggestion that you go back to the days when you had a wonderful relationship and think about what it was that got her going.......If this doesn't work, I would let her know just how important it is to you and ask her what will it take to get back to that. If she says that nothing will work, then I would lay out some boundaries (whatever you feel is necessary) and follow through with whatever those are.

I am not in a relationship right now, but I will tell you that if I were, no sex would not be an acceptable option. I now know why so many people stray in their marriages.........they love who they are with but have other needs as well. It seems to me if she loves you, she would want to do things that make you happy (not forgetting the things that she also needs from you). Sometimes they need to be shocked into how serious this really is. I have learned how much happiness is important to me and if I had a partner that wasn't interested in me sexually, I wouldn't want to be with them anymore in any capacity.(Once all the possible problems had been sought out). Obviously your counselor is doing you a disservice if this very serious problem isn't being worked on. If you wish to stay and be unhappy, that is your choice, but I would lay my boundaries and if they weren't worked on together, I would leave. Life is too short to be deprived of a very important part of a relationship.

I'll get off my soap box now..............

 

[sourdoughken]

WOOOOOOOO PIG SOOOOOOIIEEEEE

Now Jim. Just what is it that would ever make you think I'm from Arkansas?...lol






BYW "Lock'em Loins" does sound better than "Hook 'em Horns."

 

[armyjim_2000]

Silly boy....

Pigs are for KIDS! LMAO!

Timeus, please, PULEAZE, expose this silly razorback into some of Austin's culture, starting with 6th ST.
HOOK 'EM HORNS AND LOCK 'EM LOINS!

I don't know what made me think you might be from Arkansas, Ken...could it be that UGLY assed color of text? LOL
Jim

P.S. Did plenty of that locking while I was down there, too...but that's been many a moon ago...ah, the memories...

 

[Timeus]

Thank you, Jacqlin (what happened to the 'u'?)!

I want to think about what you had to say.
I had several conversations with the counselor. The last thing I want is anybody, including wife, to do me any favors! That seems to me would be the result of a confrontation along the lines of "..and if you don't, I'll..." Then sex would be a favor. I don't take mercy sex (although I could be tempted to give it!)

I agree about going back to the days of romance. The funny thing is we have great dates!--I like dating, it's an art form for me. You're right, we don't do it enough. Then we come home and nothing. Hawaii nothing. Florida nothing.

One thing that's strange is that you can't name a form of birth control wife will tolerate. What do you make of that? Also the two pregnancies (one with twins) were tough. Perhaps there's an underlying fear of getting pregnant.

So far the counseling has mostly been along the lines of "everything my husband does wrong." This actually has been useful, to see things as she perceives them. I have changed a lot of my behaviors. She has changed some of hers.

How do I find out about her unfulfilled emotional needs? Sorry to be so stupid but what are they? Like praise, admiration, security...

It's funny, she jokes about sex, likes a dirty joke--but doesn't seem to make the connection between the jokes (or a romantic movie) and our Monastery.
???????????????????
T
Does anybody know if Hippie Hollow is still a place for sex in the sun followed by a cooling dip in Lake Travis?

 

[Jacqline]

Thank you, Jacqlin (what happened to the 'u'?)!

Ok.......I will try to take this one by one........
I'm not saying that you ask her for mercy sex, what I am saying is that she needs to know the severity of the situation. What I am saying is that, if you can live with no sex, then fine.......live with it and keep it to yourself because you don't seem to want to do anything about it. If you do want to do something about it, then she needs to know the consequences if her attitude towards making love with her husband doesn't change.

I am sorry, but no normal person goes on vacations with the person they love and has no desire to make love to them!!!!!!! It does not compute! Again, if you think this counselor is doing wonders, then maybe there is something wrong with you that you need to look at, because, from what you are describing, the subject isn't even being addressed and handled.............

I hate to be blatant, but you are not even mentioning the word vasectomy as a form of birth control. If you think it would change anything that has to do with your masculinity, you are wrong....vasectomies give a couple more freedom then ever imagined............When my son was 2, my ex got one (we already had our boy and girl) and it was wonderful not to worry about my getting pregnant. We mated like rabbits once we knew we were free............He went in on a Friday after work and was in bed over the weekend at home and after that was fine.........no big deal to go through yet such a lifesaver. Your getting a vasectomy could be the answer for everything (unless you want more kids).

Again, if the counselor is focussing on what you do wrong alone (and not addressing her problem) then you definitely have the wrong counselor. Another thing you may want to find out is if your wife was sexually abused as a child and her fears are coming out now (If she had, the possibility of her burying the memories of it are very strong).

Every individual woman has her own emotional needs......I can't tell you what your wife's needs are..........you need to ask her in a non threatening way and be prepared to give them to her.

It sounds to me like you have a real problem communicating with each other. If I weren't getting sex and my partner joked about it, you can count on it that I would be addressing that one in a big way. It almost sounds like she is taunting you.

You both have choices .........do something about it and be happy, don't do anything about it and be unhappy, get a divorce, get a vasectomy, learn to effectively communicate and another thing to consider................a Marriage Encounter Weekend. I have heard from so many people how it did wonders for their marriage.

I wish you all the luck in the world..........it isn't easy to make a move and do something but the alternative is to stay unhappy......you need to figure out what you want and make it happen!

BTW, Jacqline is a fantasy name and I can spell it any way I want to.......it is pronounced how it is spelled..........Are you one of those people that thinks life has to stay within the lines or do you believe that going outside the lines works? I happen to...........

Jacqline

 

[zantac666]

jacqline HI

I like to go outside the lines i do not do things normal.

You gave good advice there.

Have a great day.

A big SNUGGGGGGGGGGGGLE.

 

[Jacqline]

Re: jacqline HI

I like to go outside the lines i do not do things normal.

You gave good advice there.

Have a great day.

A big SNUGGGGGGGGGGGGLE.

Thanks so much, Zantac........I call things as I see them and a lot of people can't handle that.......I just don't believe in paying lip service to people......I am more interested in helping them.....(even if I have to shock them into it....).

I hope you have a wonderful day as well and I would love to be snuggling with you right now...........

 

[sourdoughken]

Now Jim, what is it about this shade of green that you don't like? Dang, I could have used something like burnt orange. But then (heaven forbid) someone might have thought I was from Texas.




Like I've always said, 'You can always tell a Texan...you just can't tell 'im much.'



A man who does not make mistakes usually ends up making nothing at all.

 

[bright sun]

longhorn

I think I have a longhorn.......but UT is terrible......quack, quack

 

[PuraVida503]

Wouldn’t be nice if there was a way to sort literotica members by at least state? Sex and interests would be icing on that cake.

Finally, I find a community of folks with something in common - other than the all too many commercial sites – and I am just about to leave the country for a few months of surfing in Central America.

Well, I’ll know where to come when I return.

35/ mwm / NE PDX
and/or
M/35/5’8/160 and F/29/5’7/115 MWC in NE Portland

 

[boatwarrior]

Hey, 26 m Right smack in the middle of Seattle and Portland on the I-5 corridor. Anyone want to talk just PM me.

 

[goodgoodgirl]

anybody in Kitsap county?

I am so glad to have found this place! But I think that everyone lives in Portland or Seattle. I live in Washington but in Kitsap county......anyone else from here???
I am 43 married woman, loves erotica, and nasty talk.

 

[sourdoughken]

Welcome new comers. Come on in. Hope you find what you're looking for, enjoy your stay and let us get to know you. There's some really fine folks on here.





It's better to keep quiet and let people think you're an idiot than to open your mouth and remove any doubt they had...lol

 

[Timeus]

long horns

Speaking of longhorns, let's get practical!

Anybody have any experience with or interest in the so-called 'cul de sac' orgasm? It's supposed to be screamingly spectacular. I've only come across two mentions of it.

This is something the average duck can't provide. Or the average husky, for that matter. It takes a longhorn.

Timeus,
Longhorn in the Rain

 

[Jacqline]

Re: long horns

Speaking of longhorns, let's get practical!

Anybody have any experience with or interest in the so-called 'cul de sac' orgasm? It's supposed to be screamingly spectacular. I've only come across two mentions of it.

This is something the average duck can't provide. Or the average husky, for that matter. It takes a longhorn.

Timeus,
Longhorn in the Rain

Welcome, Longhorn......you'll fit right it.........lol (Welcome to all the other newcomers as well)!

 

[zantac666]

Re: anybody in Kitsap county?

I am so glad to have found this place! But I think that everyone lives in Portland or Seattle. I live in Washington but in Kitsap county......anyone else from here???
I am 43 married woman, loves erotica, and nasty talk.

Welcome from one kitsap to another hope you enjoy your self here i have it's has a lot of nice people here. you can pm me anytime. Have fun and take care.

 

[boatwarrior]

Don't feel too bad, I'm stuck in Lewis county