ok you female subs

[Kajira Callista]

A bit off topic or maybe not but.....what does a dominant feel like when they turn a submissive into jello with a word or a look or their tone of voice?

 

[Shadowsdream]

A bit off topic or maybe not but.....what does a dominant feel like when they turn a submissive into jello with a word or a look or their tone of voice?

I feel empowered - - Powerfully intoxicated - alive - evilly satisfied - validated -content - and proud of the one who responds so well to My Domination.

 

[Netzach]

A bit off topic or maybe not but.....what does a dominant feel like when they turn a submissive into jello with a word or a look or their tone of voice?

Sends me into my happy spot, the more responsive they are, the better.

 

[Ms_Toy]

Well little cherry girl I believe it is time for a new and possibly more positive conversation to begin from this post. Thank you for adding this extra info to your previous post.

Ok all of you submissives and slave girls what emotions do you go through when you hear the words "Good Girl!"

How do I add to what has already been said. It's amazing how two simple words can brighten my entire day. Hearing the joy in my Masters voice as He praises me for my hard work and my honest responses to them is better than Christmas morning!

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

Ok all of you submissives and slave girls what emotions do you go through when you hear the words "Good Girl!"

curiousjen has the same idea as me when it comes to work related praise by saying good girl.... sometimes I would like to hansel and gretel my boss into the oven because of the shit they pull with schedules and what not. Back to the subject though.

As to a good girl with a loved one, lover, or friends sometimes it can be joking with friends, with lovers if it is a D/s relationship then it may be in praise or just a little bit of a kick if you finally obey after being stubborn. Good girl generally gives a submissive a good feeling overall. The idea that you've pleased someone makes your day and will cause a smile.

For me it's not always good girl that will get me, there are other words that trigger other emotions and certain behaviors. Some of them being a bit more aggressive I could say.

cherry

 

[esclave_PP]

"good girl"

his voice takes on that tone which never comes up in any other kind of conversation, that tone is just for praising me.

when there's sincerity behind the statement, i know i've done something right, something of which he approves, and i feel like a friggin' rocket scientist.

there's warmth and affection, even in times of punishment, and it's always sure to win from me that dopey smile which makes me feel like a shy virgin at her first dance.

Bunny so good to see you! Good girl is magical, good slut, good lil fucktoy...the pet names...jello creating they are. Muy jello...I couldn't agree with your succinct words more... like a shy virgine at her first dance. Perfect.

 

[Softouch911]

A bit off topic or maybe not but.....what does a dominant feel like when they turn a submissive into jello with a word or a look or their tone of voice?

A rush of energy, a surge of power that is the best words can buy.

 

[Softouch911]

Its a very interesting question, Shadowsdream, because today my boss at work after asking me to do a ridiculously hard workload, saw me sweating away and said smugly "good girl". I felt so patronized and angry, I could have kicked him in the balls! (i didn't as we have to pay the rent- oh the shit we put up for the sake of bills).

However, when Owen says those words, they feel different. He has always used them as "reward words" and to give me encouragement when I am finding something difficult, or to show I have pleased him.

The other use they have are to help me go into a more submissive mindset- as he knows those words are powerful and somehow immediately put me "in my place". I think the reason those words are so powerful, is because to be "good" is really the sum of all I want to be for him, and the word "girl" immediately brings out the vulnerable, trusting wide eyed innocent side of me. I agree like Laurel Marie was saying, when he says the words it is almost like a code that makes me want to please him even more. Often he will murmer "good girl" as he pushes my head towards his erect cock, and that gives me such a thrill that I want to do the best cock worship ever- and don't think he doesn't know that He is a man who choses his words carefully!

The words also have a forbidden quality for me, because I was raised in a matriarchal household, and my mother would hate to think I was being called a "good girl" on a regular basis. She would say, you're not a girl, you're a woman- I know she would. And isn't what your parents would disapprove of just a little thrilling sometimes?

You have a way of consistently boiling difficult, vague issues down the simplest and most human of denominators. Thank you once again.

 

[Shadowsdream]

The orgasm...do you crave this release or do you also enjoy edging up to orgasm and then being denied? If you are brought to the edge and then denied do you physically lose interest? Is your orgasm for your own pleasure or for the pleasure and amusement of your Dominant?

This Mistress is extremely nosey tonight!

 

[Kajira Callista]

The orgasm...do you crave this release or do you also enjoy edging up to orgasm and then being denied? If you are brought to the edge and then denied do you physically lose interest? Is your orgasm for your own pleasure or for the pleasure and amusement of your Dominant?

This Mistress is extremely nosey tonight!

For the Dominants amusement. I can stay on the edge for a long time and be denied and still feel pleasure in being denied just by knowing that person controls it. I can orgasm when i am told to because knowing that is what pleases the Dominant takes me there.

 

[Shadowsdream]

For the Dominants amusement. I can stay on the edge for a long time and be denied and still feel pleasure in being denied just by knowing that person controls it. I can orgasm when i am told to because knowing that is what pleases the Dominant takes me there.

Ummmmmmmmmmm your response tells Me that giving up control is a pleasure for you. Thank you KC for jumping in with the first response.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Ummmmmmmmmmm your response tells Me that giving up control is a pleasure for you. Thank you KC for jumping in with the first response.

Oh, was i first. Uhmmm it's not like i'm following you around the threads or anything too often.

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

The orgasm...do you crave this release or do you also enjoy edging up to orgasm and then being denied? If you are brought to the edge and then denied do you physically lose interest? Is your orgasm for your own pleasure or for the pleasure and amusement of your Dominant?

This Mistress is extremely nosey tonight!

Although I myself love being teased and tortured that orgasm is still wanted and desired so badly that I would beg for it... I tend to beg for what I want. I enjoy being edged up and brought down as well as being denied what I want.

Physically i dont lose interest. Speaking for myself and my own body, I know that even though i can put away waht i want mentally well enough until someone touches me or whispers in my ear. I think the orgasm is for both Dominant and submissive.

While the submissive desires it so badly if she is a proper submissive then she will know that her Dominant desires not to give her that out of amusement or punishment if that is needed. It can be for both pleasure and punishment in my opinion. Knowing myself I can deal with not having an orgasm while I still enjoy when my Dom gives me an orgasm.

All in all I think a submissive should not be denied forever and both should find pleasure in the things they do even if it is punishment. It should not matter what one person does and does not do all the time it just matters that both know they are treated with respect and love.

another opinion...

cherry

 

[serijules]

The orgasm...do you crave this release or do you also enjoy edging up to orgasm and then being denied? If you are brought to the edge and then denied do you physically lose interest? Is your orgasm for your own pleasure or for the pleasure and amusement of your Dominant?

This Mistress is extremely nosey tonight!

Oh, wonderful question.

I love being teased....no matter how much I really do want the orgasm, no matter how much my body is begging for it, my mind is loving the tease and denial because I am suffering for her. D takes advantage of this big time and tortures me to no end sometimes. It's challenging and arousing and I love to hate it. She can keep me on the edge for days. I am not allowed to touch or orgasm without her permission and this really makes the end result much stronger when I am finally allowed it. I love the look on her face as she watches me squirm and beg and plead, her fingers or my own drenched with my arousal. I get extremely wet. She will make me lick myself off her fingers or off a toy when I am finished, and thank her. I feel like such a little slut. Her slut

It's interesting though...at the beginning, I used to beg daily to be allowed to touch, allowed to orgasm. It was admittedly very much about my arousal. The longer I belonged to her, the more this naturally changed. Now I no longer beg for it unless I know she wants me to, wants to hear my desperation or my pleading. I just suffer for her, let her know when I am aroused to amuse her. Now I find myself not even *wanting* to orgasm unless she is there to be a part of it or at the least, hear it. So yes, my arousal and my pleasure is definately for her amusement and her pleasure foremost, over my own. I can't claim it was always like that but now is what matters, and I know I will be disciplined if my focus shifts from that. Just another of the many ways she completely owns me.

 

[laurel-marie]

The orgasm...do you crave this release or do you also enjoy edging up to orgasm and then being denied? If you are brought to the edge and then denied do you physically lose interest? Is your orgasm for your own pleasure or for the pleasure and amusement of your Dominant?

This Mistress is extremely nosey tonight!

This ones a hard one for me. It is an area I don't feel like I can just give up, I try and hold back as much as I can.
I will start with the last question first becuase that will help with the other ones. At his hands...the orgasm is his, for his pleasure and amusement. It is one of the few areas where he gets some form of an evil gleam in his eye. Most definitly not for my pleasure. He derives much joy from bringing me to the edge and keeping me there ...juuust a breath away from going over, but not taking me there. Of course there is the other route, making me go over again and again, no time to adjust. Oh, yes, all his.
Do I lose interest. No. My entire focus is on the orgasm or the building of it, trying to convince my body to go over on its own and forget the man working the controls. Just do it, come on, cum, like a mantra. That is for the denying. For the continuous string of orgasms...I don't think at all. Not from loss of interest, but from the mind numbing sensations I am going through.
The first question I really cannot answer. I cannot say I crave the release because either way he does it, the release is to much. On the other hand the building up to deny is agonizing in its ownself. Which is the lesser of two evils...I cannot choose.

(Now, this isn't for all our times together. We have times of simple love making where the orgasms are pleasureable for both. No power play.)

I guess tea time is over.

 

[His_pita]

If they were chocolate...
wife=Hershey's kisses
Good girl = Godivia or greater
One delights the taste buds...the other delights the whole body( good chocolate has a certain effect on me)

Ohhhh, as a big time chocolate lover I so agree with this statement.

When my Sir tells me that I am a “good girl,” it’s the best feeling I have ever known. I hear it or see him type the words and the first thing that happens is a pure smile of joy spreads across my face. I feel it in the pit of my stomach and my whole body gets light feeling. I know I sometimes blush when he gives me praise and I am so very happy to have pleased him. They are the words that I strive to have him say to me. The ones I want to hear forever.

 

[babiesmiles]

your reply was wonderful...your beginning journey will create a lifetime of memories and knowing that you strive to do your best is always a good thing.

Perhaps it is good to read many of the possibilities and different significances of cold eyes long before the day you may experience them. To understand the variables and how different Dom/mes use them.

Thank you for posting to this thread ~~smile~~

Your words are really appreciated and I'll follow your advices . Thank you

 

[princess4u]

I agree with your Master about the eye contact. Often subs trained by others or self trained from the Internet come to Me unable to raise their eyes to Mine. The eyes speak and can hide nothing if one knows how to read emotions.

ahhhhh the eyes have it - that's for sure - my master demands it -
i never fail to respond to the touch of his finger under my chin -
and i delight in the feeling - the moment our eyes meet i know
i am safe to share what is in my soul

 

[princess4u]

good girl

Ok all of you submissives and slave girls what emotions do you go through when you hear the words "Good Girl!"

it makes me smile just reading the written words here because it
instantly brings to mind my Master's happiness - i revel in his happiness
and fulfillment and i am blessed to be the source of those emotions for him

i never take those words for granted, nor does he use them unfounded

the words are like a big, warm, tight, loving hug from my Master -
his joy is truly mine

 

[princess4u]

denied orgasm

The orgasm...do you crave this release or do you also enjoy edging up to orgasm and then being denied? If you are brought to the edge and then denied do you physically lose interest? Is your orgasm for your own pleasure or for the pleasure and amusement of your Dominant?

this denial is not a regular part of our sessioning so it is a little difficult for
me to respond to this question - the exasperated orgasms, one after another...after another...
after another, are for his pleasure and delight
and most times he pushes me to my limit...and then demands one more -
and many times the "one more" turns into 4 or 5 more - it is a gift that
i give him that brings me immeasurable pleasure

 

[Shadowsdream]

Although I myself love being teased and tortured that orgasm is still wanted and desired so badly that I would beg for it... I tend to beg for what I want. I enjoy being edged up and brought down as well as being denied what I want.

Physically i dont lose interest. Speaking for myself and my own body, I know that even though i can put away waht i want mentally well enough until someone touches me or whispers in my ear. I think the orgasm is for both Dominant and submissive.

While the submissive desires it so badly if she is a proper submissive then she will know that her Dominant desires not to give her that out of amusement or punishment if that is needed. It can be for both pleasure and punishment in my opinion. Knowing myself I can deal with not having an orgasm while I still enjoy when my Dom gives me an orgasm.

All in all I think a submissive should not be denied forever and both should find pleasure in the things they do even if it is punishment. It should not matter what one person does and does not do all the time it just matters that both know they are treated with respect and love.

another opinion...

cherry

Hello cherry and thank you for the well thought out response once again showing so many variables and how there is no right or wrong answer not even for one individual. The mutual pleasure with whatever twist needs to be executed to keep it real and moving forward in a satisfying way to both no matter how that goal is reached.
Denial is a tool that when over used invalidates itself in My O so humble opinion!

 

[graceanne]

I feel there is a vast difference in our vanilla world and our D/s world when it comes to expressions being used to instruct...train...comfort...communicate...and place into a zone...just for starters.
I can see that you have been able to recognize the destruction from the past with coldness yet still know how to use the look yourself in valid situations.

I try. My biggest goal in life is to be not like my mother. Don't get me wrong, my mom is a better parent than her parents were to her. She did her best, and that's what counts. I guess that anything, if done excessively, can be abusive.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Oh, wonderful question.

I love being teased....no matter how much I really do want the orgasm, no matter how much my body is begging for it, my mind is loving the tease and denial because I am suffering for her. D takes advantage of this big time and tortures me to no end sometimes. It's challenging and arousing and I love to hate it. She can keep me on the edge for days. I am not allowed to touch or orgasm without her permission and this really makes the end result much stronger when I am finally allowed it. I love the look on her face as she watches me squirm and beg and plead, her fingers or my own drenched with my arousal. I get extremely wet. She will make me lick myself off her fingers or off a toy when I am finished, and thank her. I feel like such a little slut. Her slut

It's interesting though...at the beginning, I used to beg daily to be allowed to touch, allowed to orgasm. It was admittedly very much about my arousal. The longer I belonged to her, the more this naturally changed. Now I no longer beg for it unless I know she wants me to, wants to hear my desperation or my pleading. I just suffer for her, let her know when I am aroused to amuse her. Now I find myself not even *wanting* to orgasm unless she is there to be a part of it or at the least, hear it. So yes, my arousal and my pleasure is definately for her amusement and her pleasure foremost, over my own. I can't claim it was always like that but now is what matters, and I know I will be disciplined if my focus shifts from that. Just another of the many ways she completely owns me.

Ah ha you speak of the progress from the all about me orgasm to the owned orgasm so well. How the transition within the depth of ones own relationship so often changes the dynamics of both need and desire.

The build up the wait the struggle and suffering which I feel you give in pride to Her.

Begging is one of the most fascinating things a sub can do for Me if it is done well and authentically...especially a horny girl on the edge of orgasm!

 

[graceanne]

The orgasm...do you crave this release or do you also enjoy edging up to orgasm and then being denied? If you are brought to the edge and then denied do you physically lose interest? Is your orgasm for your own pleasure or for the pleasure and amusement of your Dominant?

This Mistress is extremely nosey tonight!

Sex and foreplay are still enjoyable, even if you aren't allowed to orgasm. Or for that matter even if you don't orgasm. When I was preggo with B, no matter what K did, I couldn't orgasm. Drove him crazy. But sex is still fun without an orgasm. And frankly I would, and have, had sex when I wasn't in the mood cause he was. (And it's only here that I can say that and not have people jump all over my ass. It's so nice.)

And to tell the truth, being denied is quite a turn on in itself.

 

[Shadowsdream]

This ones a hard one for me. It is an area I don't feel like I can just give up, I try and hold back as much as I can.
I will start with the last question first becuase that will help with the other ones. At his hands...the orgasm is his, for his pleasure and amusement. It is one of the few areas where he gets some form of an evil gleam in his eye. Most definitly not for my pleasure. He derives much joy from bringing me to the edge and keeping me there ...juuust a breath away from going over, but not taking me there. Of course there is the other route, making me go over again and again, no time to adjust. Oh, yes, all his.
Do I lose interest. No. My entire focus is on the orgasm or the building of it, trying to convince my body to go over on its own and forget the man working the controls. Just do it, come on, cum, like a mantra. That is for the denying. For the continuous string of orgasms...I don't think at all. Not from loss of interest, but from the mind numbing sensations I am going through.
The first question I really cannot answer. I cannot say I crave the release because either way he does it, the release is to much. On the other hand the building up to deny is agonizing in its ownself. Which is the lesser of two evils...I cannot choose.

(Now, this isn't for all our times together. We have times of simple love making where the orgasms are pleasureable for both. No power play.)

I guess tea time is over.

~~smile~~ it is very nice to read about the power struggle the giving in yet a semblance of resistance that happens with more than a few. Often it is the struggle within between need and desire that makes an eventual orgasm orgasmic...if that makes any sense...

Agony and ecstasy...what more could one ask for in obedience!