❓ PLP Inquires❓

[AlwaysFara]

More people than should know my first name. I was too cavalier when I first got here, which is how that stalker stalked me.

A few people I met, and am on other social media with, know my first, last, maiden, and SS#.

I call Sassy and cookie their Lit names and real names interchangeably.
Once I know you in real life it’s usually like that.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters who's username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

I'm pretty careful with my first name. It's extremely common, and is kinda just meh, but I don't share it immediately.

The anonymity of Lit kinda lets you get to know someone first...even their kinks, before you have to make the call on what to share. I never sign my real name on a PM that I initiate...it's always LG. If I bond with you a little...I'll use my first name after a few messages.

I think there is only one quasi-retired Litster that knows my full name, and another whom I'd share it with, and don't know why I have not yet. But that's sacred territory...and most of my super-close Litster friends call me a third name that isn't my username or my first name, but one that I got tagged with a while back that I don't think I'll ever escape lol

Mostly I'm interchangeable with usernames/real names, or default to real names. Just how I am.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

You can never escape your past!

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[lurkingguy1978]

You can never escape your past!

cackle
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Truer cackl...I mean, words, are rarely spoken lol

 

[standard1]

no one on Lit knows my given name and i’m not close enough to anyone here to share it. i have no problem knowing anything about anyone that they choose to tell me regardless whether i know their first name or not. everybody here has a Lit personality and that’s a sufficient identifier for me.

 

[Suz_anne]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters who's username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

More people know my first name than know my deepest kinks. And I believe the total number of people who know my first name is four.

So I guess you could say I play it close to the vest.

 

[lonewolf1920]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters whose username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

I am not comfortable sharing my real name with anyone on the internet. No I don't find it odd that I can know their kinks and not their real name in this age of identity theft. I think I know maybe 2 or 3 active Lit users real names. Most people know my Skype name or KIK name which is also my writing name but I couldn't use that when I joined Lit.

 

[Dribble]

It is just a first name.

 

[hotwords229_A]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters who's username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

I have given certain people my first name, I'm not really that protective of it. Plus, it is so common that I probably would have used it as a fake name anyway, so what's the difference?

If your name was Joe and you needed an alias would you use Norberto? Or just stick with Joe knowing nobody would think that was your real name? But I digress . . .

Knowing kinks before names is the name of the game here.

I know a few first names of people here, but I actually try NOT to remember them because I'm concerned I might give them away by accident. I think I still remember all of them, but I try to make my brain stick with their username for safety sake.

 

[AlwaysFara]

It is just a first name.

Thanks, Karen.

 

[JerseyJade]

Thanks, Karen.

* writing that down *

 

[Dribble]

Thanks, Karen.

Welcome sweetie

 

[AngelicaS1780]

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[AngelicaS1780]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters who's username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

I have shared my first name with several Litsters. People with whom I have developed friendships.
No, given the nature of the site, I don’t find it odd.
I don’t think there is any username I prefer over the real name. Some seem more natural than a real name because that is how you first got to know them.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

You can never escape your past!

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cackle
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...and Honey will always be Honey (unless you're Fara; then it's Hiney)

 

[AlwaysFara]

...and Honey will always be Honey (unless you're Fara; then it's Hiney)

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters who's username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

Though my first name is common, it is a different spelling from the norm. It is funny looking it up on Google now, as compared to two, five, ten and yes, twenty years ago. Even just five years ago, the search results would only come up with a handful of people, but today, it comes up with all kinds of entries (including a wikipedia entry that is very inaccurate as to the origination of the spelling, but I don't feel like putting the time back into researching the etymology again in order to site references). But my point is, it used to be that my first name alone was sufficient for people to find my full name and address on Google.

With that being said, I am not as uncomfortable as I used to be. Especially in the early days of the internet. Getting a random call from someone going "Hey! I am X from Y chatroom!" shuts things down pretty quick. Again, today it doesn't bother me as much, and I have posted my first name on these boards since joining.

As for Usernames V their Given names? I could see a few people being interchangeable in casual conversation simply out of habit of having referred to them for so long by their Usernames. Funny enough, people tend to stick with my Usernames, even after finding out my first name, "It just fits better"

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

...and Honey will always be Honey (unless you're Fara; then it's Hiney)

Haha. It is!

 

[Paul_Chance]

06.26.19

Since gossip abounds, let's talk about it generically.

Do you consider yourself a gossip? Would other people consider you one?
Do you ever censor yourself to a friend because they are known to gossip or are friends with someone who does?
How do you respond to people who phish for information? Have you ever purposely used gossip for your own means (ie to send an indirect message)?

I gossip, though with some self-implied rules. Gossip is basically the informal sharing of unconfirmed information, and as such can be either negative or positive. I'm not a negative gossip (I don't share bad crap about people - I deliberately share positive gossip, which is good things about people.)

No, any information I share in a casual conversation I don't mind if other people share, principally because I am not sharing negative things.

I usually just give them the information, if it is something they could reasonably expect. If I think they're fishing for information, I will openly ask them what they're looking for and why, and then make the decision for there. I will not hesitate to tell people "you don't need to know" or "I can't share that with you for X reason".

Yes, more than...well, a hundred times at least. Gossip is a powerful social tool and I've used it, and will use it in the future. I also admit to using gossip to "follow the line". Which is tell four different people four variations of a nice and juicy story, to see which version pops up in the gossip exchange. Know how those chains of information work is a very powerful tool, both personally and professionally.

 

[Paul_Chance]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters who's username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

Once I've moved from the realm of Lit Friend to real friend, I'll share my name and be comfortable with it. I generally don't share it on the boards, just from an abundance of caution, but not because I'm a secret squirrel or anything. I like the anonymity of the boards and other online forums, so I tend to stay within the screen name lane.

It is a bit odd, but not that odd. If you've any experience in non-online sexual forums (swapping, swinging, groups, etc.), the use of nicknames or first name only is pretty common.

On Lit, know, but I have a good friend I met in another online forum and I refer to her by her screen name from that forum, but only because it's a nickname IRL too.

Paul is my middle name and I go by it in casual circumstances outside of the online world too. My full name is common and I share it with a C-List celebrity, so if you were to google it, you'd come back with thousands of hits that have nothing to do with me. Additionally, my online presence outside of anonymous forums is non-existent. You used to be able to pull up a picture and several news articles about me, but that has since faded to somewhere out in the Wayback Machine.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Back to the gossip question?
I LOVE gossip.
However, I will usually ask the source the gossip is about, first.
For instance, I’m always nosey about who is talking to whom.
I think A is talking to B, but then C is posting about A a lot, so what’s up with that?
I will usually ask A, B, C, or all three of them what’s up before I go to D and say WTF is going on with A? Has C lost his mind??!

I will point blank say, “I’m nosey. Please tell me this...”
It often works.

That being said, I have kept many confidences. If I’m in a relationship with someone (in any capacity) or someone comes to me with advice? I will NEVER betray them. I also trust that if I tell someone here about my life, they won’t betray me.
I’ve locked down a lot with all that in the past year, mostly going to my tried and true friends to unload.
I have made and kept many good friends, so I guess I’m good at that part.

 

[AlpineFresco]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters who's username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

Not very comfortable, unless I've got to know them reasonably well first. I think only 3 people here know my first name.

Is it odd to know someone's kinks before their first name? God no. This is the internet age, and something I grew up with - we find out all kinds of things about a person while they have a mask of anonymity.
Usernames vs real names? I don't know that many real names here, but in one case I find nicknames at least as natural as either username or real name. In the others, real name is more natural to me.

 

[Que]

Welcome sweetie

When does either have time to work? Lit takes up too much time.

A better question would be, how do you have time to track other people's posts, argue on the GB, smooooze wit teh ladeez, avoid the wife AND earn a living?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

A better question would be, how do you have time to track other people's posts, argue on the GB, smooooze wit teh ladeez, avoid the wife AND earn a living?

Who gave you the talking stick? Give it back, right now.

 

[Que]

Who gave you the talking stick? Give it back, right now.

Dribble did. He, from time to time gets lonely when his dribble is universally ignored and seeks my attention.

I am an attentive guy once I decide to focus.

How you been, Honey? I really should get out into the countryside more often like this. I can feel the fresh air already.

I'm thinking of having the GB tested for radon gas black mold and toxic building syndrome.