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[Wild_Honey_66]

Home funeral. Don't pickle me. Big party after.

Don't care where they put me, do something creative!

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I just assumed everyone was an organ donor. Barring any medical or religious practices, you’d have to be a dick not to be.

You'd be surpised. 95% of Americans say they are good with it, but only about 50% will check the box. Then coupled with most hospitals won't do it without next of kin consent anyway, and having actually to die in a hospital but meet all the other medical requirements. It is rare.

Hell, bone marrow is a living proceedure that you are almost never called on for yet only 2% of Americans have placed themselves on the list and blood donation, well only about 10% of Americans donate. Given that, it is kind of surprising 50% check the organ donor box.

I am also surprised body donation percentage is so low too. I mean organ donation is so time sensitive, but body donation isn't, so people can sit in the morgue a while before deciding. They take almost everyone, even severe trauma and most diseases. It takes the least effort of dealing with a death, and they cremate at no charge, which saves several thousand dollars. I mean if 98% of Americans are too lazy to mail a cheek swab, you'd think more would go for saving time and money.

Idk, maybe it is all too creepy for most I guess. Most religions aren't against any of these things.

 

[clistenovena]

07.06.19

Do you know what you want to do with your body when you die? Buried? Cremated? Launched into space?
Are you very sentimental when it comes to people's final reating places?

If I die before my mom (which I really hope doesn't happen as she's buried one child already), I'll be buried in the family plot, no matter what. Otherwise, my husband knows of my wishes, which is more about those left than about me. 'Cause I'll be dead and all.

I am sentimental about my brother's burial place. Outside that, I am truly introspective about the lives that were lived, such as one in Bonaventure Cemetery I saw.

https://i.imgur.com/1tR7Sp4m.jpg

It lay at the base of the headstone for Ann Marion Houston Johnston who passed in 1817.

It reads:
Fair Stranger
whose feet have wandered
to this land of silence
Contemplate this Stone.
Near it is interred Dust
Which once a lovely Form
inhabited by a Mind,
Superior in Intelligence,
worth and Amiableness,
to most of her sex.
As a Daughter, Sister and Friend
as a Wife and Mother,
few whom she left behind
can boast
so bright an example.

I was stunned at the love this woman encouraged, so much that her family wanted this message to be for all who ventured near to read about her.

One of the most beautiful sights I have ever seen.

 

[Lily13]

If I die before my mom (which I really hope doesn't happen as she's buried one child already), I'll be buried in the family plot, no matter what. Otherwise, my husband knows of my wishes, which is more about those left than about me. 'Cause I'll be dead and all.

I am sentimental about my brother's burial place. Outside that, I am truly introspective about the lives that were lived, such as one in Bonaventure Cemetery I saw.

https://i.imgur.com/1tR7Sp4m.jpg

It lay at the base of the headstone for Ann Marion Houston Johnston who passed in 1817.

It reads:
Fair Stranger
whose feet have wandered
to this land of silence
Contemplate this Stone.
Near it is interred Dust
Which once a lovely Form
inhabited by a Mind,
Superior in Intelligence,
worth and Amiableness,
to most of her sex.
As a Daughter, Sister and Friend
as a Wife and Mother,
few whom she left behind
can boast
so bright an example.

I was stunned at the love this woman encouraged, so much that her family wanted this message to be for all who ventured near to read about her.

One of the most beautiful sights I have ever seen.

This is absolutely beautiful. To be remembered in such a way says so much about a persons' life. How and who they touched and left behind - a wonderful memory.

I haven't even figured out what I want to do when I die I have to get back on that, though I wouldn't want my son to have to deal with it on his own

 

[tnman03]

Cremation and internment in an East TN mountain valley cemetery family plot where my parents lay. They wanted all of us together again in the fullness of time. Some of my siblings will do the same along with their spouses. No funeral or memorial service.

 

[clistenovena]

This is absolutely beautiful. To be remembered in such a way says so much about a persons' life. How and who they touched and left behind - a wonderful memory.

I haven't even figured out what I want to do when I die I have to get back on that, though I wouldn't want my son to have to deal with it on his own

No matter how long I live, I will never forget that memorial to Ann Marion Houston Johnston.

Oh, I had that thought, too. Plans done for that very reason. Good luck to you. It's necessary, but not fun.

Cremation and internment in an East TN mountain valley cemetery family plot where my parents lay. They wanted all of us together again in the fullness of time. Some of my siblings will do the same along with their spouses. No funeral or memorial service.

What a lovely idea.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

I just assumed everyone was an organ donor. Barring any medical or religious practices, you’d have to be a dick not to be.

You'd be surpised. 95% of Americans say they are good with it, but only about 50% will check the box. Then coupled with most hospitals won't do it without next of kin consent anyway, and having actually to die in a hospital but meet all the other medical requirements. It is rare.

Hell, bone marrow is a living proceedure that you are almost never called on for yet only 2% of Americans have placed themselves on the list and blood donation, well only about 10% of Americans donate. Given that, it is kind of surprising 50% check the organ donor box.

I am also surprised body donation percentage is so low too. I mean organ donation is so time sensitive, but body donation isn't, so people can sit in the morgue a while before deciding. They take almost everyone, even severe trauma and most diseases. It takes the least effort of dealing with a death, and they cremate at no charge, which saves several thousand dollars. I mean if 98% of Americans are too lazy to mail a cheek swab, you'd think more would go for saving time and money.

Idk, maybe it is all too creepy for most I guess. Most religions aren't against any of these things.

Donation was a given. That matters to me.

Ash whatever is left.

 

[UgliestSon]

07.06.19

Morbid Question!

Do you know what you want to do with your body when you die? Buried? Cremated? Launched into space?
Are you very sentimental when it comes to people's final reating places?

Oh hell yeah I want a huge funeral in a really grand church or Cathedral. Maybe St John the Baptist in Savanah. And I want a black gospel choir there to sing a bunch of old Otis Redding and Sam Cooke songs. I think that song Good Times by Gene Chandler would be a good way to finish it out. Or maybe You Cant Hurt Me No More would be better suited. Ask me later. Then drive me to Montgomery and bury me as close to Hank Williams as they can. Come visit us both a the Oakwood cemetery.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

07.06.19

Morbid Question!

Do you know what you want to do with your body when you die? Buried? Cremated? Launched into space?
Are you very sentimental when it comes to people's final reating places?

Organ Donor. That aside, https://www.thelivingurn.com/ with a request to be buried in the forest, preferably one recently ravaged by fire for the regrowth.

No, I am not, I am more about their wishes, and since most of my partners had unique wishes, it was all about fulfilling them.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

Hell, bone marrow is a living proceedure that you are almost never called on for yet only 2% of Americans have placed themselves on the list and blood donation, well only about 10% of Americans donate. Given that, it is kind of surprising 50% check the organ donor box.

I am not allowed to donate marrow due to the fact I have a rod in the femur of my right leg. When my Granddaughter was diagnosed with cancer, the whole family got tested as a possible donor just in case.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

07.06.19

Morbid Question!

Do you know what you want to do with your body when you die? Buried? Cremated? Launched into space?
Are you very sentimental when it comes to people's final reating places?

I do have the organ donor box checked - I won't be needing them. I'm sentimental about my mother's grave which, unfortunately, is about 1,000 miles away from me at the moment, so I don't get to visit as often as I should. But she's in a beautiful corner of a New England churchyard that overlooks farms and mountains. If I could be buried someplace like that, I'd be more than satisfied.

 

[Karabare]

07.06.19

Morbid Question!

Do you know what you want to do with your body when you die? Buried? Cremated? Launched into space?
Are you very sentimental when it comes to people's final reating places?

I do so enjoy morbid! Organ donor if able. Preferably buried without embalming, allow all your energy to be consumed by the earth for future use.
No, a final resting place is only where their body is, not their soul/being. Part of that is still within your memories. Excellent question PLP.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.06.19

Morbid Question!

Do you know what you want to do with your body when you die? Buried? Cremated? Launched into space?
Are you very sentimental when it comes to people's final reating places?

I appreciate everyone's answers! This has been really interesting. Death is the one thing we all have in common ut but rarely discuss.

So, i recently had to do a research paper on eco friendly burial methods and it really convinced me to go that way. Even though cremation has its own carbon emissions problem. I think I'd like to be cremated and made into an Eternal Reef. They mix your ashed with concrete and add you to the coral reef. There is one close to where I live and I like the idea of always being a part of the ocean.

I have very little sentimentality for burial places other than like historical places. I believe that once someone dies all that's left is a peanut shell. I'd rather be remembered in someone's living room in conversation than some random field out of the way.

I did hear recently that the most valuable places on earth are graveyards. Because there lies untold unwritten books, unpainted works of art, unrealized discoveries... just a reminder that life is finite and to make yours count.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I appreciate everyone's answers! This has been really interesting. Death is the one thing we all have in common ut but rarely discuss.

So, i recently had to do a research paper on eco friendly burial methods and it really convinced me to go that way. Even though cremation has its own carbon emissions problem. I think I'd like to be cremated and made into an Eternal Reef. They mix your ashed with concrete and add you to the coral reef. There is one close to where I live and I like the idea of always being a part of the ocean.

I have very little sentimentality for burial places other than like historical places. I believe that once someone dies all that's left is a peanut shell. I'd rather be remembered in someone's living room in conversation than some random field out of the way.

I did hear recently that the most valuable places on earth are graveyards. Because there lies untold unwritten books, unpainted works of art, unrealized discoveries... just a reminder that life is finite and to make yours count.

I’m changing my answer. I want a Fara Reef.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I am not allowed to donate marrow due to the fact I have a rod in the femur of my right leg. When my Granddaughter was diagnosed with cancer, the whole family got tested as a possible donor just in case.

That is interesting. I knew hip and spine implants ruled someone out, but I didn't know a femur would. of course, the hip and spine is usually a moot point, given the cell quality is much higher in those below 45, they won't consider a donor over 60, and hip surgery is usually 60+. Even if you matched and didn't have the rod, based on the fact it was your grand daughter, you still probably would have been a last resort. Donor age is substantial to long term prognosis so perfect world is a donor of late teens or early 20s as the cell degradation process hasn't really begun. even the difference between a 20 to 30 year old donor is a significant decrease in survival rate. But yes, most people don't provide a saliva sample until someone they know might need a transplant, hence it is such a small percentage of people included. It isn't really something most college age kids think about doing, and they are the ones most needed.

I hope it all worked out for your grand daughter and family. Things like that are so hard, especially when it involves the young.

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

06.30.19 (suggested)

How comfortable are you sharing your first name with people on Lit? Do you find it odd that you may know someone's deepest kinks before you know their name?
Are their any Litsters who's username you prefer or seem more natural than their real names?

Yea, as long as it's mutual. The rest I don't give much thought to.

07.06.19

Morbid Question!

Do you know what you want to do with your body when you die? Buried? Cremated? Launched into space?
Are you very sentimental when it comes to people's final reating places?

I told my daughter once that when I get old & silly, just take me out back, shoot me, throw some gas, toss a match & poof, we're finished. She said "ok".

For my mom yes, for others...no.

My organs will be way too old to be of use to anyone.

 

[beachbaby179]

I've had this discussion with my boys. I'd like to be cremated. Theres a company called The Living Urn that will send you a seedling of a tree of your choice and you plant your ashes to help it grow. I'd like to be a dogwood.

The rest, they are to take me out in the kayak at sunset and scatter me off my favorite beach, while playing my favorite music. They're totally cool with it.

And yes, I'm an organ donor.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I've had this discussion with my boys. I'd like to be cremated. Theres a company called The Living Urn that will send you a seedling of a tree of your choice and you plant your ashes to help it grow. I'd like to be a dogwood.

The rest, they are to take me out in the kayak at sunset and scatter me off my favorite beach, while playing my favorite music. They're totally cool with it.

And yes, I'm an organ donor.

This is a good plan, too.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Having just been through two ash scattering requests, just thought I would drop it out there that there are regulations (federal, state, and local) about ash scattering. If you've got a favorite place in mind, you might want to check the regulations and/or coordinate it through your local funeral home or an organization dedicated to it.

On private land you're fine, as long as you have the permission of the owner, but on public lands there are things that have to be done - and some states require you to file forms specifying "where" the ashes are scattered and consenting to it NOT being considered sacred ground (meaning you could come back in a decade to see where your loved ones ashes were scattered and find condos).

 

[AlwaysFara]

Having just been through two ash scattering requests, just thought I would drop it out there that there are regulations (federal, state, and local) about ash scattering. If you've got a favorite place in mind, you might want to check the regulations and/or coordinate it through your local funeral home or an organization dedicated to it.

On private land you're fine, as long as you have the permission of the owner, but on public lands there are things that have to be done - and some states require you to file forms specifying "where" the ashes are scattered and consenting to it NOT being considered sacred ground (meaning you could come back in a decade to see where your loved ones ashes were scattered and find condos).

Oh.

They aren’t going to tell anyone. They are just going to do it.


There won’t be condos in the water. I was thinking I’d be fish food.

But, now, I like the tree or the reef idea.

Not for me, mind you. I’ll be gone. For some comfort for my kids.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Oh.

They aren’t going to tell anyone. They are just going to do it.


There won’t be condos in the water. I was thinking I’d be fish food.

But, now, I like the tree or the reef idea.

Not for me, mind you. I’ll be gone. For some comfort for my kids.

Waterway's are especially sensitive, legally speaking. But yes, do it subtly and no one will complain. In one state where I recently did it, I was reading the laws and the attorney general of the state had commented on it and said that, in his thirty years as a state's attorney he had never heard of anyone being prosecuted and just recommended "be discrete". The only cases he was aware of were related to people trespassing on private land or creating a public disturbance with the ceremony. LOL - I figured that meant a too exuberant ceremony, maybe with beer and firecrackers.

One of the ones I did, the ashes were scattered around the roots of an old cedar tree on private land, so though scattered, friends and relatives had a visual marker of the site, should they want to pay their respects while hiking through. Where I grew up, it used to be tradition to plant a fruit tree (usually apple) on the grave site, so future generations of passerby's could benefit. Lots of different traditions out there!

 

[lurkingguy1978]

Whereever my ashes end up, it will be for the comfort of my loved ones. I haven't specified...I want them to do what feels right, because I'll be long past the point of it mattering much to me.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Again, drawing on recent experience, I would highly urge everyone to a.) be very specific in your request, and b.) communicate it widely to your family.

Both of the ashes scattering that I participated in were delayed and caused a good deal of discord because the deceased wish was vague and "I don't care about the details", which led to inter-family conflict during the emotionally difficult grieving period.

Write it down so there is no room for dispute, e.g. "Cremate my remains, get a simple transportation box, then scatter them on Miller's Point overlooking the North Fork of the American River."

It's simple, but you will be doing your loved ones a big favor, believe it or not. This is my personal opinion, but "I don't care" is a cop-out and isn't going to help your loved ones at all in a very difficult time. In modern mixed families you have a variety of religious, spiritual, philosophical, and secular traditions all intermixed and given the emotional sensitivity following a time of profound loss, conflicts will arise. Don't dump it on them in their time of grief. They're going to be struggling to get through it anyway. Give them clear, written, and preferably agreed upon directions before hand. (LOL - okay, end of my vent.)

 

[AlwaysFara]

Again, drawing on recent experience, I would highly urge everyone to a.) be very specific in your request, and b.) communicate it widely to your family.

Both of the ashes scattering that I participated in were delayed and caused a good deal of discord because the deceased wish was vague and "I don't care about the details", which led to inter-family conflict during the emotionally difficult grieving period.

Write it down so there is no room for dispute, e.g. "Cremate my remains, get a simple transportation box, then scatter them on Miller's Point overlooking the North Fork of the American River."

It's simple, but you will be doing your loved ones a big favor, believe it or not. This is my personal opinion, but "I don't care" is a cop-out and isn't going to help your loved ones at all in a very difficult time. In modern mixed families you have a variety of religious, spiritual, philosophical, and secular traditions all intermixed and given the emotional sensitivity following a time of profound loss, conflicts will arise. Don't dump it on them in their time of grief. They're going to be struggling to get through it anyway. Give them clear, written, and preferably agreed upon directions before hand. (LOL - okay, end of my vent.)

No. It’s a good thing.
I’ve already had the convo with family. And I know what to do for some of my oldies, too.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.08.19

Has there ever been a time in your life where you feel like you've "lost your sexy"? What caused that feeling? How did you get it back? If you've never lost your sexy, how do you keep the constant sex appeal/desire flowing????