The 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'

[Stella_Omega]

Apparently you are also missing the point.

He was really, really mean to you and no one has given him a spanking?

 

[BLoved]

75 pages to invent every accusation under the sun to demonize someone who doesn't believe in the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'.

Yet when one of their own says "kill yourself" ... nothing.

Welcome to the double-standard that is the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'.

 

[warrior queen]

Obviously you are very selective when it comes to criticizing others.

your response makes no sense.
why include ImOnIt's comments?

 

[Stella_Omega]

75 pages to invent every accusation under the sun to demonize someone who doesn't believe in the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'.

Yet when one of their own says "kill yourself" ... nothing.

Welcome to the double-standard that is the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'.

One of their own what?

Aren't you a big boy who can stand up for yourself?

 

[chy_girl]

75 pages to invent every accusation under the sun to demonize someone who doesn't believe in the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'.

Yet when one of their own says "kill yourself" ... nothing.

Welcome to the double-standard that is the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'.

BZZZZZZZZ!!!! Wrong answer!

rida did. Want me to quote that for ya?

 

[chy_girl]

You're missing the point.

No I'm not... You don't have anything to say about the issues I addressed so you are deflecting said issues by bringing in a comment by another member that has absolutely nothing to do with the topic I addressed.

In other words:

 

[ImOnIt]

BZZZZZZZZ!!!! Wrong answer!

rida did. Want me to quote that for ya?

She did indeed. That was a perfectly good paragraph, so I want to know why only two words from it are copied one hundred times a couple of pages ago.

 

[Netzach]

Just as long as we don't talk about why we choose to practise bdsm privately in loving relationships.

Just as long as we don't talk about why we reject casual 'bdsm'.

Because if we do, just about every casual player and advocate has a coronary instead.

We're free to talk, just as long as we say what you want.

Otherwise you throw every insult you can invent.

That's your 'respect' for diversity in bdsm.

No, they all manage to explain why they do what they do without being an arrogant dickface to everyone who might not do it the same way.

 

[seela]

So where does someone who doesn't believe in casual 'bdsm' belong?

This might be a place for you. Taken In Hand

 

[chy_girl]

This might be a place for you. Taken In Hand

Can I add Al-Anon as a resource?

And maybe GriefShare?

 

[seela]

I kinda wish I had read the whole thread before replying with the Taken In Hand link. Had I known what was to come, I probably wouldn't have bothered posting.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I kinda wish I had read the whole thread before replying with the Taken In Hand link. Had I known what was to come, I probably wouldn't have bothered posting.

yeah, you aren't doing the TIH crowd any favors are you!

 

[seela]

yeah, you aren't doing the TIH crowd any favors are you!

I know. Maybe I should apologize preemptively.

 

[chy_girl]

yeah, you aren't doing the TIH crowd any favors are you!

I hope I don't regret this, but ... TIH crowd?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I hope I don't regret this, but ... TIH crowd?

Taken In Hand

It's a "way of being" type website that seela linked to just before

 

[chy_girl]

Taken In Hand

It's a "way of being" type website that seela linked to just before

Ah. I didn't look beyond the OCD part.

*shrugs*
Still think that the Al-Anon and grief group would be helpful... that would require being open to personal change and growth though. So maybe not.

ETA: Thought for a moment that TIH might be referring to a piece of his writing.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Ah. I didn't look beyond the OCD part.

*shrugs*
Still think that the Al-Anon and grief group would be helpful... that would require being open to personal change and growth though. So maybe not.

ETA: Thought for a moment that TIH might be referring to a piece of his writing.

I know, I got confused for a moment as well, but if you go over to the home page, it'll go through it. If you want. No biggie.

 

[chy_girl]

I know, I got confused for a moment as well, but if you go over to the home page, it'll go through it. If you want. No biggie.

So is this like 24/7 D/s for the vanilla world?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

So is this like 24/7 D/s for the vanilla world?

It's really hard to describe what it is.

It's all like 'no matter how strong she is and how much she wants tot ry and take control of the relationship, she'd be horrified if he actually let her'

and stuff.

I dunno.

 

[seela]

So is this like 24/7 D/s for the vanilla world?

I've never quite understood it, to be honest. 24/7 D/s for the vanilla world with kinky BDSM sex if that's what the couple wants is how I figure it is. I've been made clear, that it's not traditional marriage in the biblical sense and it isn't BDSM either. But it seems closer to BLoved's writings than anything else I can think of. *shrugs*

 

[chy_girl]

Well, so long as it works for them and they don't try to beat me to death with their beliefs.

 

[seela]

Yeah, they're pretty good about that not beating to death with their beliefs thing.

 

[Etoile]

She said she'd had no childhood, and all she wanted was to be a kid with no responsibilities.

No offense, but this should inspire "holy shit" and immediate running away.

 

[BLoved]

BZZZZZZZZ!!!! Wrong answer!

rida did. Want me to quote that for ya?

I am aware of Rida's objection. I mentioned that a while ago.

How many people have taken 75 pages to jump up and down because I do not believe in the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm'?

And how many jumped up and down for this:

Kill yourself.

I stand by that statement.

That's right.

One person ... for exactly one post.

The casual community's double-standard stands revealed.

 

[BLoved]

No offense, but this should inspire "holy shit" and immediate running away.

I only learned of that the day she told me she was leaving.

From the first day I talked to her till the day before she left, she'd given me the distinct impression (as in telling me, more than once) that she was a mature adult who wanted to learn of love.